Argh!

OK, I don't want this to turn into La's Internet Dating Blog, but I'm just really frustrated by a recent communication from one of my matches.

It's funny, because most of the other guys I communicated with didn't have much of a personality (or at least not one that came across via e-mail). But then this guy, J, with whom I've been communicating is the exact opposite. Except that he is so cocky and full of himself and totally rubs me the wrong way.

I've been putting off contacting him by phone to set up a date. There's just something... aggressive about him that I find disturbing. I didn't really like the tone of his last e-mail. Plus, he lives about 50km from me, so meeting him would be an effort.

He gave me his phone number some time last week and I haven't bothered calling yet. So today, he sends me another e-mail basically telling me to stop dragging my heels and call him! Here's what he wrote:

Let's be honest. I'm the fun loving, carefree guy your mother warned you about. But don't worry...you probably wouldn't be able to handle me. Hey I thought you actually wanted to meet people, have some fun, laugh a bit. I guess I was wrong. As you can tell, I have a ton of personality and I'm a fun outgoing guy to hang around with. So give me a call. Oh, the part of women wanting to rip off my running tights? It's not true. So you don't have to worry about losing control if we go out on a run.

Sorry, dude, but who the hell are you to assume that I won't "meet people, have some fun and laugh a bit" unless it's with you??!!

I formulated a variety of witty responses, but each one of them sounded defensive. So, I simply replied: I guess we're not on the same page. Good luck in your search.

Argh! Why can't I just get a date in the normal way??

Oh, and Trish - why do you think it's weird that Mr.Coffee and I shook hands?

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Ahhhh, I just figured out what it is! You know how everyone says that they're looking for a partner with a "sense of humour", well I've realized that we don't just want that -- we want someone who has a similar sense of humour to our own, someone who gets us and who we get in return.

Although I can appreciate that he was probably just trying to be light and funny in his messages to me, the missing piece for me in his humour is an element of self-deprication, which he clearly does not have. I have no time for people with a cocky sense of humour - because it comes off as arrogance to me. There's something more human and natural and normal about someone who is humourously self-depricating (without being overly critical or depressing).

Although my own sense of humour does lean toward self-deprication, I also have a very sarcastic side to me. I understand that sarcasm doesn't always come across in the printed word, especially via e-mail [hmmm, is it possible that he was trying to convey sarcasm in his message?]. Only the most talented and eloquent writers [of which I am not one] can make it work (and who takes the time to do that in a hastily composed e-mail?).

So, GUS, that's who I want to meet: Someone who is outgoing, positive, athletic (not just "active") and has a self-depricating sense of humour. Someone who smiles with his eyes and has a youthful yet mature approach to life.

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To bring things back to the weight-loss/exercise theme, I didn't get a chance to run this evening because I had to go to the visitation for KL's mum. Normally Thursday is my off day, so I'll just switch it up and run tomorrow instead. I ate poorly because there were all these baked goods at the funeral home.

It was also hard to eat well the last couple of days because I am working off site and have to eat from the cafeteria. I'm back in the office on Friday, thankfully.

All that, just when I was down 2 pounds since January 2nd with only 2 more to go until I get back to my lowest weight ever of 166 on December 15.

Tomorrow I'll be good... I promise!